Life Transitions

 return slowly

(The Hermitage sign along the driveway for departing guests).

 

Greetings from Three Rivers, Michigan! My husband and I moved here almost a month ago—sold our home, sorted, packed, donated (and donated, and donated), and moved to join the residential community of The Hermitage, a contemplative retreat center.

At one point we seriously considered joining the residential community but it never seemed the right time. During a conversation with the Hermitage board someone asked Kevin is he was finished his library career and he realized there was more he wanted to explore. Within the past two years he sensed an inner restlessness and began to discern that he was ready to move on from library work. After pondering and praying we approached The Hermitage about joining the residential community. And here we are.

We are settling into our new home, new work, new schedule, new life. We are learning what it is to pray together as a community six days a week which includes weekly celebrating the Eucharist with one another. We are learning to work together which involves explaining and absorbing details such as which towels and sheets go into which guest room. Working together involves discussing and challenging and yielding and releasing of “my way.”

As Benedict stated in his rules for monastic life: Ora et labora. The literal translation is “Prayer and work.” It can also be translated as “Our work is our prayer; our prayer is our work.”

I discovered this prayer from the Common Prayer: A Liturgy for Ordinary Radicals which describes my inner restlessness and reflection these past several months:

Prayer for Major Life Transition

Lord, help me now to unclutter my life, to organize myself in the direction of simplicity.

Lord, teach me to listen to my heart, teach me to welcome change, instead of fearing it.

Lord, I give you these stirrings inside of me. I give you my discontent, I give you my restlessness. I give you my doubt. I give you my despair. I give you all the longing I hold inside. Help me to listen to these signs of change, of growth; help me to listen seriously and follow where they lead through the breathtaking empty space of an open door.

 

I pronounce you wife and husband

Mike and Sarah (1)

 

Earlier this month I officiated the wedding of our eldest nephew on Vancouver Island, British Columbia. I was honored they asked me to join them and I am grateful for their trust. As I reflected on the wedding this blessing emerged (unfortunately too late to use in the ceremony!).

Wedding Blessing (for Mike and Sarah)

  • *May you be silly and playful together;
  • *May laughter be the soundtrack of your home;
  • *May you delight in each other;
  • *May you be one another’s best cheerleaders;
  • *May you be kind to one another; (Always practice kindness)
  • *May you listen deeply to each other;
  • *May disagreements and arguments be resolved equitably and fairly;
  • *May you resist score-keeping between you;
  • *May you release slights and grudges;
  • *May you remember that you hold each other’s hearts;
  • *May you be patient with yourselves;
  • *May your love be strong and flexible;
  • *May you be brave and bold as you forge this new life together!

–With love, Aunt June

(Photo by Dennis Driedger)