Help me to listen, especially to this person who has hurt me. Help me to listen to their heart rather than focusing only on my heart (but, help me to be wise and to protect my heart from further harm).
Open my ears—give me ears to hear this person. Help me to hear them as a person rather than as “the other” who wounded me
Open my eyes—give me eyes to see this person. Help me to see them as a person who is loved and cherished by you, just as I am loved and cherished by you.
You said I am to love my enemies and to bless those who hurt me. Help me to love wisely—to love myself and to love this person.
Help me to trust you to be in this process of reconciling with this person. Help me to release my resentment, my bitterness, my anger. Forgive me for thwarting this process and for getting in your way of healing this broken situation. Forgive me for choosing conflict avoidance over conflict transformation. And, in turn, help me to forgive myself.
I pray for good will to be restored in this broken relationship. I pray for freedom for both of us. I thank you for your faithfulness to me and to this person. I am grateful for your constancy to us. I am grateful for your desire for relationships to be healing and restorative. I thank you for your reconciling work in both our hearts.
I praise and bless your holy name, Amen.
*Some of this prayer was inspired by John Paul Lederach’s July 8, 2010 interview on “Speaking of Faith” on Public Radio, http://speakingoffaith.publicradio.org